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Mommy guilt, the nagging sense of inadequacy and constant fear of failure as a mom, happens to almost every momma. As moms, we tend to place a lot of pressure on ourselves to parent perfectly. Our significant other, family, friends, and society have pretty high expectations of mothers as well. A 2020 study conducted by the Pew Research Center found that 77% of adults believe that women face a lot of pressure to be “involved.” Being “involved” sounds like the unspoken belief that moms should singlehandedly be all things to all people at all times except for ourselves. Whew! That sentence is exhausting in and of itself.
It’s happened to me, and I bet you’ve experienced mommy guilt, too.
There was an article in the 2009 journal of Evolutionary Psychology written by two sociologists who offered some interesting ideas about potential causes of mommy guilt. They discussed five reasons for mommy guilt:
Do these findings resonate with you? I found them eye-opening as these are some of the same fears echoed by other moms in my own circle as well as the moms whose children I treat in my clinical practice. But, holding on to this guilt can lead to unhealthy parenting habits, mommy burnout, and depression and anxiety. That’s why it is critical that we learn how to let go of that guilt as quickly as possible. Let me say that you do not have to consistently put the needs of your children and sacrifice your own health and well-being to be a great mom. It’s simply not true. To quote Elsa from the Disney movie Frozen, we must “Let it go!”
How do we let go of the mommy guilt? Here are 5 ways to beat mommy guilt:
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Rotkirch, A. & Janhunen, K. (2009). “Maternal Guilt.” Evolutionary Psychology. Accessed October 17, 2020. https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/pdf/10.1177/147470491000800108