The Division of Responsibility: Helping Avoid Picky Eating
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What should you know about picky eating and the Division of Responsibility?
- What is the Division of Responsibility
- How can you use the Division of Responsibility for your baby and your toddler
- Tips to help make using the Division of Responsibility easier
Having a picky eater can leave us feeling frustrated and anxious. The good news is that with some patience and commitment, using the Division of Responsibility (DOR) can help take the stress out of mealtime and bring your little one closer to being a more adventurous eater.
What is the Division of Responsibility?
The DOR is a feeding model developed by Ellyn Satter, a Registered Dietitian, Nutritionist, and Family Therapist;1 and is recognized as best practice by the American Academy of Pediatrics and the Academy of Nutrition and Dietetics.2, 3, 4
By following the DOR, you (the caregiver or parent) are responsible for providing nutritious foods at meals and snacks (the what, when, and where of eating). Your child then takes the lead by deciding how much of that food to eat, whether they will eat it at all (the how much and whether of eating).5, 6
Breaking it down: You and your child’s jobs within the Division of Responsibility
What: You prepare balanced meals and snacks for the family.
When: You decide what time meals and snacks will be. Keep them at consistent intervals and try not to allow eating between.
Where: Sit-down meals and snacks are best. Aim to have your child sit in the same place for each meal and snack to help build a routine and good meal-time behavior.
How much: Of the foods you provide, your little one will decide how much of each food to eat.
Whether: Your little one may decide not to eat one or all of the foods provided.
Tips: Keep mealtimes positive and relaxed. No need to worry if your little one doesn’t even try some of the foods provided. Model appropriate mealtime behavior, reflecting your own family values and traditions. Patience is key here as you allow your child to decide how much or how little their body needs, following their naturally strong internal hunger and fullness cues.7
Read more: Learning to Love Healthy Foods
What are the benefits of the Division of Responsibility?
Research shows that families who follow the DOR are more likely to have children who are competent eaters.8 This means the child:
- Has a positive and healthy relationship with food and eating
- Eats the amount that is right for their body
- Learns to eat food from the family table
- Behaves appropriately at mealtimes8
How do I use the DOR for my baby?
During infancy, parents determine what the child eats (breastmilk or formula), while the child controls the where, when, and how much.7
Tips: Pay attention to your baby’s feeding cues and feed when baby shows hunger signs. Let your baby indicate which position is most comfortable, and then let them feed however they need to: Slow, fast, steady, or stop-and-go.7 Allow your little one to show you when they are ready to stop.9
How do I use the DOR when starting solids?
As your baby starts solid foods, you determine what and where your child eats while your child decides if they are going to eat and how much they will eat.7 At this age you share the responsibility of ‘when’ as you slowly transition away from on-demand feeding toward a more regular schedule with solid foods.7
Tips: Be conscious of your little one’s hunger and fullness cues; don’t force them to eat if they seem full or disinterested.9 This is a time of exploration: let your baby try many new foods and textures.10 Continue to introduce foods over and over; it may take 10 tastes or more before your little one begins to accept it.12
How do I use DOR for my toddler?
Your toddler wants to do everything on their own at this age! When it comes to food, you want your little one to start exerting their independence and feed themselves. You are responsible for what, when, and where your child eats, while your child will decide how much and whether to eat.7
Family meals play an important role in the DOR. Think about planning one meal for the family, including at least one food that you know your little one will eat. Family meals also allows you to model healthy eating.13 Your little one will follow your lead, making it more likely they’ll try the foods they watch you eat.12
Read more: Family Meals: Healthy Eating Patterns
What are some tips for using the Division of Responsibility and for helping prevent picky eating?
Use the Division of Responsibility consistently
In addition to fostering healthy eating habits, sticking to the DOR principles will help your child know what to expect when it comes to eating. Using it over time will allow you to eventually see results and your picky eater may begin to be more adventurous.
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Establish age-appropriate meal and snack patterns
Introducing solids can be different for different babies. Some babies are eager for opportunities to eat solids, while others take time coming around to try new food consistencies and flavors. This is entirely normal.
As your child works their way up to 3 meals and 2 to 3 snacks per day (often by 12 months and beyond), aim to keep meal and snack times consistent. Try not to let your little one eat within 1 to 2 hours of a meal so that they come to the table hungry and ready to eat.15
Make smart food choices for your child
Offer a variety of wholesome foods at meal and snack times. Emphasize vegetables, fruits, whole grains, and proteins for the entire family.16
Don’t cater entirely to likes and dislikes
Offer a variety of foods knowing that sometimes a favorite will be on the menu and other times it will not.
Include something familiar
Babies and children often accept new foods when paired with foods they already know and like.1 So when you’re meal planning, make sure to include at least one food each family member accepts (this can be as simple as placing whole grain bread on the table alongside the main dish and sides).
However, avoid offering alternatives for the main dish as this may send the message that you don’t expect your child to learn to like new foods.
Trust your child’s intuition (unless there’s a known feeding issue)
Trust that your child will eat what they need and allow them to have as much or as little of the foods you offer. Don’t worry about your child occasionally skipping a meal or snack altogether. As long as you offer foods at consistent times from day to day your child will have plenty of opportunities to get the nutrition they need over time.
Encourage your child to try new foods but don’t pressure
Studies show that pressuring children to eat “healthy” foods such as vegetables can backfire, causing them to be even less likely to eat those foods in the future.14 Let your child choose what they want from the foods you put on the table or their tray. It’s perfectly fine (and normal) if your child only eats one or two of the foods you offer.
As you serve different foods at the family table, encourage everyone to have a taste, but reassure them that they don’t have to, there will be other opportunities!
For more information about picky eating, check out our Picky Eating Hub
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